Being An Adult

What does being an adult mean anyway? Does it mean going to a 9-5 job, rushing out to the grocery store afterwards while trying to get the kids to behave, and paying our bills on time? Does it mean having a certain amount of money in our bank account, owning a house, and slowly paying off our student loans? Unfortunately, most of the world probably agrees with these definitions of being an adult. After all, we can’t really avoid responsibilities as we grow older, but should we let these obligations define us?

I mean, most of us don’t really know what we’re doing anyway – we’re just making choices, and hoping they’re the right ones for us, whatever that means. We all just kind of get thrown onto this planet, and have to adjust and try to make sense of it all as we go along. So, maybe being an adult means nothing more than getting older, and trying to have some fun along the way.


HERE ARE 8 THINGS YOU SHOULDN’T BELIEVE ABOUT BEING AN ADULT:
1. THAT YOU NEED TO HAVE IT ALL FIGURED OUT
Newsflash: no one knows all the answers. They might act like they do, but really, we never got a guidebook on how to live life. We never had a class in school called “How to Make the Right Choices and Not Screw Up.” If we did, life probably still wouldn’t make that much sense, because at the end of the day, we all live in a way that feels best to us. No one can teach us how to feel good about our decisions, or how to make the right ones. Just because you have a degree and a nice job, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t question your life from time to time. Having doubts doesn’t mean you are totally lost – it means you’re human.

Perfection doesn’t exist, and knowing all the answers to life’s questions doesn’t, either. Forget about knowing, and instead, focus on being. All the rest will work itself out.

2. THAT YOU NEED TO OWN A HOUSE
Who said you need to shell out $150,000+ on a piece of property? Who said to be a successful, upstanding citizen of society that you need to have ownership of, essentially, a giant box? It doesn’t make you any less of a person to either rent for your whole life, or have roommates until you turn 60, or whatever other living situation makes sense to you. Having a house sounds nice in theory, but it doesn’t come cheap most of the time, and the maintenance fees can really add up. According to a survey carried out by Hart Research Associates, over half of Americans can’t actually afford their house. Meaning, they’ve had to make major sacrifices or take a second job in order to cover their mortgage.

So, does it still sound appealing to have your own house?

3. THAT OTHER PEOPLE KNOW HOW TO ADULT BETTER THAN YOU
Comparing yourself to others won’t get you anywhere, except in a depressed state of mind. Also, just because people appear to have it together on the surface, you don’t know what happens behind closed doors. They might have crippling debt, rising mortgage payments, and other struggles that they don’t tell you about. So what if they make more money than you? That doesn’t equate to more happiness. In fact, a groundbreaking global study including 54 countries confirmed this fact back in 2010.



So, even if people seem to have more than you or appear to know all the answers, this doesn’t mean they have mastered adulting. They probably just know how to pretend really, really well.

4. THAT YOU SHOULD GET MARRIED AND HAVE KIDS
Again, no one said that to have a happy, successful life, you need to tie the knot with someone and reproduce. Society might pressure us to do these things, but we don’t have to listen. If you want these things, by all means, go for it, but you can have a fulfilling life without bearing children or having a life partner.

5. THAT YOU HAVE TO WORK AT A 9-5 JOB
What if you want to own a business? What if you want to draw and paint for a living, out of your own home? If you want a 9-5 job, then great! But if not, don’t feel like you have failed at adulthood or life in general. People follow different paths in life, and maybe yours doesn’t involve a 40 hour workweek. Your dream might involve something different, so just allow it to manifest without feeling guilty about carving your own path.

6. THAT YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH LIFE ON YOUR OWN
When we grew up, we had our parents or guardians to help us with life’s hurdles. They taught us to tie our shoes, to stand up to bullies, to take out the garbage at night, and other important things about life. However, somehow when we become adults, we are expected to do everything independently. However, we are social animals, so sometimes we will inevitably need some help and support. Don’t hesitate to speak up and ask questions or reach out to someone when you feel alone. This actually makes you more of a mature adult because you know your limits and don’t feel embarrassed to ask for help when you need it.

7. THAT YOU SHOULD NEVER MAKE MISTAKES OR STRUGGLE
Mistakes allow us to learn and grow. If we didn’t make them, we would never become transform from a caterpillar into a butterfly. We would stay in one spot, and never know what it means to overcome challenges. Adulthood DOES NOT equal perfection, so don’t expect everything to go smoothly. The bumps in the road make the journey worth it, as you’ll discover when you look back on the hard times and realize how much you grew because of them.

8. THAT YOU HAVE TO PRETEND TO BE OKAY
Adulthood also doesn’t mean putting on a fake smile and hiding your true feelings from the world. If you need to cry, scream, and throw things, then do it (as long as you don’t hurt yourself or others). Pretending and putting up walls doesn’t make you more of an adult; it just means you are suppressing your true emotions. Remember, we’re all just kids running around in adult bodies, stumbling around and trying to make good lives for ourselves. You don’t have to put on a smile every single day if you don’t feel like it. Some days will be harder than others, and if that means crying over a pint of ice cream and asking your best friend to come over, then so be it. You’re under no obligation to pretend, because humans have all sorts of emotions, and you don’t have to feel guilty for feeling them.

What you are thinking now is creating your future… Because you are always thinking, you are always creating. What you think about the most or focus on the most, is what will appear as your life. Like all the laws of nature, there is utter perfection in this law… Whatever you sow, you reap! Your thoughts are seeds, and the harvest you reap will depend on the seeds you plant.

You are in the perfect place on your perfect journey. You are right where you are meant to be, because you chose it. In fact, you could not be more perfect than you are now.

Inspiring and Romantic Love Quotes of All Time

Love is the most wonderful feeling of all.  To reflect on the abundance of love floating through the Universe today and every day, we share the words of love that have become eternal throughout the world. 

1. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-13

2. “You know you’re in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” – Dr. Seuss

3. “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi

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4. “Love is real, real is love.” – John Lennon

5. “The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever.” – The Notebook

6. “The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.” -Thich Nhat Hanh

7. “The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.” – Helen Keller

8. “I love you — not only for what you are — but for what I am when I am with you.” – Roy Croft

9. “And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.” – Paul McCartney

10. “It’s the way that you know what I thought I knew. It’s the beat that my heart skips when I’m with you.” —Crazy in Love, performed by Beyonce Knowles

11. “I love you right up to the moon and back.” – Sam McBratney

12. “You are my sunshine, my only sunshine. You make me happy, when skies are gray.” — Jimmie Davis

13. “Two souls with but a single thought, two hearts that beat as one.” — John Keatslove wine

14. “One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love.” – Sophocles

15. “The more I give to thee, the more I have.” – William Shakespeare

Add Positive Energy to Your Workplace

Add Positive Energy to Your Workplace: Stay Organized

Much work stress comes from deadlines that were missed and disorganization. Keep a color coded calendar of all work events, deadlines, meetings, and client updates. Being able to consult the calendar of all daily events will make work less stressful.

Practice Effective Communication
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Most people have negative communication with one another because the communication is not effective. Send emails updating colleagues on the things that each person must be aware of and while speaking in person, genuinely listen to one another rather than being abrupt. Better communication produces positive communication and positive feelings.

Smile
Many people do not make a habit of smiling and looking cheerful at work, but looking approachable will get you much different results than looking standoffish. Practicing smiling and having a more upbeat attitude makes it likely that other workers will approach you with the same attitude. Clients also prefer working with someone who is professional, yet friendly.

Make Small Goals
Most of the time people don’t feel accomplished at work, which leads to feelings of negativity. Setting small goals that lead to larger accomplishments will help keep you focused will help keep your attitude positive and upbeat.

Leave Work at the office
If you have a stressful job or a job that can be brought home, it can become easy for your life to be overwhelmed with work. If you vow to leave work at home and spend your personal time with family, friends, and your own hobbies, work will appear much less like an albatross and must more like a part of life.

Parenting Tips

Give Positive Attention While Spending Time With Your Child

•     Spend time alone with your child giving them your undivided attention
•     Plan fun activities that the entire family can participate and enjoy
•     Take them to different places outside of your neighborhood to expand their horizons such as museums, parks, beaches, camping trips, mountains, etc.
•     Encourage your child on a daily basis which will help them to prosper in their daily lives
•     Share a real interest in the things that matters to your child
• Encourage Positive Communication
•     Talk “with” your child instead talking “at” them
•     Take the time to listen to what your child has to say and value the shared information
•     Urge your child to open up about discussing large and small problems with you
•     Don’t put your child down while they discuss any concerns or problems they are dealing with
•     Plan some time each day to have a conversation with your child to discuss about how their day went, and any possible difficulties they may have encountered
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• Show Your Love Through Daily Action
•     Show your love and support for your child daily as this will let your child know that you love and care for them
•     Frequently give them hugs on good and bad days
•     Continuous show your interest in your child’s life
• Buildup a Healthy Confidence And Self-Esteem
•     Teach your child that it’s good to feel positive about themselves
•     Take out the time to speak and show your child that you know they are special
•     Recognize and find the positive confidence in them
• Continuous Promote Positive Values And Attitudes
•     Teach your children at an early age how to care and respect themselves along with others around them
•     Instruct them on the right and wrong things
•     Try to minimize negative comments and give more positive comments
•     Encourage good work habits in their academia and employment

Add to the list!

Health Benefits of Celery

"People with Crohns Disease, IBS and many other digestive issues could benefit greatly from eating celery".

Celery is a food that we all know and love. It’s used in a variety of summer salads, as well as in soup recipes and much more. But did you know that celery carries with it a multitude of health benefits? Tyler Tolman shows us the mind-blowing benefits of this crunchy low calorie snack!

“Have you ever noticed that celery looks like our bones? If you cut a whole stock of Celery it looks just like the insides of a bone as well. Celery is high in natural sodium which is the catalyst for making bones.

Many people think by taking calcium supplements they are helping their bones when in fact all they are doing is calcifying their body.

Let’s think about it for a second, you can take coral calcium off the ocean floor and sell it as pills or you could recognize that the coral got there by the sodium content in the water and sunshine in the first place. 2 major building blocks for your body making calcium.

The body needs sodium and sunshine to produce strong bones, something celery has both of!! That’s right celery has sodium and sunshine!

There is evidence of celery being used as a medicinal plant in ancient Egypt. There’s also evidence that ancient Greek athletes were awarded celery leaves to commemorate their winning.

Hippocrates described celery as a nerve re-builder and soother and said “let food be thy medicine”
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Fresh celery is an excellent source of vitamin-K. Vitamin-K helps increase bone mass by promoting osteopathic activity in the bones. It also has established role in Alzheimer’s disease patients by limiting neuronal damage in the brain.

Recent research has brought knowledge about celery’s anti-inflammatory health benefits, including its protection against inflammation in the digestive tract itself. This means that people with Crohns Disease, IBS and many other digestive issues could benefit greatly from eating celery.

Celery has also been shown to decrease risk of oxidation damage to body fats and risk of oxidation damage to blood vessel walls. (it strengthens the circulatory system ;0)

As far back as ancient Rome, celery was considered an aphrodisiac. Today, scientists know that celery contains androsterone, a pheromone released by mens’ sweat glands that attracts females.

Famed Italian lover Casanova made sure to include lots of celery in his diet to keep up his stamina. (Apparently good for different kinds of bones)

So you can snack on it raw or do what I do and add Almond Butter or mix it in with a Green Smoothie:
For an amazing green smoothie that my wife and baby have every day for breakfast, simply mix these ingredients in a blender:

smoothie-recipe

1 cut apple
2 sticks celery
½ avocado
¼ cucumber
big handful or 2 of greens (spinach, kale, silverbeet etc)
2-3 banana’s
5-7 dates
Then add ¼- ½ of the pitcher with water and blend till Silky Smooth :0)”