Ways to Live Longer

Don't overeat

If you want to live to 100, leaving a little bit of food on your plate may be a good idea. Author Dan Buettner, who studies longevity around the world, found that the oldest Japanese people stop eating when they are feeling only about 80% full.

St. Louis University researchers have confirmed that eating less helps you age slower; in a 2008 study they found that limiting calories lowered production of T3, a thyroid hormone that slows metabolism—and speeds up the aging process.

Parents Fight Continues

Who has not had a fight, argument and will not budge when he feels right. Any person young or old must have a fight. Of the sepals to the serious stuff.
The quarrel was not immune from the couple. Marriage is the union of two distinct persons, of the mindset, bred background, culture, and principles. So do not be surprised if the husband and wife often quarrel, especially in the early days of marriage. However, if you are a married couple who already have a baby, let alone still under 5 years, it's good to start reducing this habit, especially when you're with your kids.
According to Eunice Henny Wirawan, Faculty of Psychology, University of Tarumanegara, Jakarta, children often see their parents quarrel could doubt happiness and peace promised a marriage bond.
Do not be surprised if a lot lately minded not to get married, because of the trauma she experienced as a child. Some of my friends for example. In addition to the modern era and have not had the time again to marry at an early age, many of my friends share that the reason they do not want to get married because of trauma or postpone marriage would someday like her father before marriage. Dengna filled with commotion and strife.
Furthermore, the more often children see their parents fight, children will be less respect to his parents. Parents who have taught many moral values ​​of a, b, c, d, e, they themselves also were violated. Parents always teach the child to respect others, make friends with all the people, etc., but when kids see that in fact the behavior of the parents do not like what they teach, then the child will be even less respect for you as a parent.
When the child saw his father often scolded her mother, then the child will be even less respect for him, for they saw that his own father did not respect his mother.
Children, especially under 5 years easy to record and imitate what people do around it. Plus, they also have a sharper memory at that age. So if you give a bad example to your child, then they will imitate. Seringkan heard stories that scrappy kid with her, because who likes to imitate his father hit his mother? This is not the only story in soap operas, but also often occur in the real world.
Other effects, children can become more insecure. Especially when they see other families that get along and be happy. They will tend to compare it with the state of his family that there is no peace. Then they will feel insecure and embarrassed, could not even allow his play to the house. Some chose to confine himself in a room, away from the storm center, pretended not to hear and often become lazy at home.
Your child will you not experience these things? Start now more careful when sparks begin to occur that will trigger a fight with your spouse. Contention is sometimes unavoidable, but you can avoid children hear or see it, especially when they are still small.

Sleep orderly Can Make Slim Body

Regular sleep patterns many benefits. One study reported sleep and wake up at the same hour will make people more slender than those with messy sleep schedule.
In a study published in the journal American Journal of Health Promotion, researchers from Brigham Young University, USA, involving 300 women aged 17-26 years. Studies conducted several weeks it found that those who had good sleep habits or more consistently have less body fat.
Volunteers was assessed body composition. They were also given activity monitoring tool to record the movement of the day and their sleep patterns at night. The result, researchers found those who slept less than 6.5 hours or more than 8.5 hours turned out to have body fat levels higher.
Women with a variety of sleep and wake up more than 90 minutes during the week have levels higher body fat than those who have a variety of sleep and woke up less than 60 minutes.
Professor Bruce Bailey, a professor of exercise science Brigham Young University, said the low quality of sleep can result in a high body fat because hormones related to appetite. "We got rid of the internal clock and internal clock and not allow it to get a pattern that has influence in our physiology," Bailey said as quoted by the Daily Mail.
He added that there are several ways to improve the quality of sleep, including regular exercise, making the bedroom is quiet and dark, and only use the bed for sleeping. "Sleep is often the victim of an attempt to do more work and better," said Bailey.

What is a muscle cramp?

Many of us have cramps (spasms) muscle during exercise. Of course this will be an obstacle to getting the best results from exercise. So what is a muscle cramp, and how muscle cramps can happen? 

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Cramping is a brief contraction that appears suddenly and excruciating pain in a muscle or muscle group. Cramps often experienced by healthy people, especially during or after hard exercise. This condition is also experienced by middle-aged parents after mild exercise or during breaks. Most people experience cramps in the legs during sleep. This painful cramps usually occur in the calf muscles and legs so that the feet and toes bend inwards. Causes of Muscle Cramps
The interesting thing about muscle cramps exact cause is not known. This is a very common problem, but scientists are still unsure about the exact cause. Many interesting ideas have been put forward. Some say that this is due to the lack of heating / stretching and contraction of muscle cramps occur when disturbed and damaged by acids or other damage in the muscle. Health experts also believe that the cramping is a sign of dehydration which can be prevented by drinking water before exercise. Lastly, there are many people who believe that it is due to lower levels of salt and essential minerals in the body. When Exercise Prevent Muscle Cramps
A healthy muscle is much less likely to experience muscle cramps than new to exercise and muscle old and broken. Stretching on a regular basis is one of the best ways to prevent muscle cramps due to lengthen muscle fibers and helps them to maintain healthy function. One of the best things you can do to prevent muscle cramps is to stretch and improve the health and flexibility of your muscles. Overcome Muscle Cramps As Exercise
When your muscles run out of oxygen you are likely to experience cramping. Exercise when muscle cramps will only make more oxygen loss and make your cramps worse. It's important to exercise in a cool environment, away from the scorching heat. It is very very influential on the body cramps. If you are running on a hot day, try to go in and do light exercise in a cooler place. Drink To Replace Lost Fluids
And last, a little stretch your muscles and hold for a few minutes. Allow the body to relax your muscles when you stretch. It is one of the best way of stopping the pain.
The more you practice from time to time, the less likely you are to experience muscle cramps. Remember to always drink and stretch before, during, and after exercise so that you are free from muscle cramps.

Setting hurt and anger aside

The key to co-parenting is to focus on your children—and your children only. Yes, this can be very difficult. It means that your own emotions—any anger, resentment, or hurt—must take a back seat to the needs of your children. Admittedly, setting aside such strong feelings may be the hardest part of learning to work cooperatively with your ex, but it’s also perhaps the most vital. Co-parenting is not about your feelings, or those of your ex-spouse, but rather about your child’s happiness, stability, and future well-being.

Separating feelings from behavior

It’s okay to be hurt and angry, but your feelings don’t have to dictate your behavior. Instead, let what’s best for your kids—you working cooperatively with the other parent—motivate your actions.

• Get your feelings out somewhere else. Never vent to your child. Friends, therapists, or even a loving pet can all make good listeners when you need to get negative feelings off your chest. Exercise can also be a healthy outlet for letting off steam.
• Stay kid-focused. If you feel angry or resentful, try to remember why you need to act with purpose and grace: your child’s best interests are at stake. If your anger feels overwhelming, looking at a photograph of your child may help you calm down.
• Use your body. Consciously putting your shoulders down, breathing evenly and deeply, and standing erect can keep you distracted from your anger, and can have a relaxing effect.

Children in the middle

You may never completely lose all of your resentment or bitterness about your break up, but what you can do is compartmentalize those feelings and remind yourself that they are your issues, not your child's. Resolve to keep your issues with your ex away from your children.

• Never use kids as messengers. When you have your child tell the other parent something for you, it puts him or her in the center of your conflict. The goal is to keep your child out of your relationship issues, so call or email your ex yourself.
• Keep your issues to yourself. Never say negative things about your ex to your children, or make them feel like they have to choose. Your child has a right to a relationship with his or her other parent that is free of your influence.

Co-parenting after a separation or divorce

Joint custody arrangements, especially after an acrimonious split, can be exhausting and infuriating. It can be extremely difficult to get past the painful history you may have with your ex and overcome any built-up resentment. Making shared decisions, interacting with each another at drop-offs, or just speaking to a person you’d rather forget all about can seem like impossible tasks. But while it’s true that co-parenting isn’t an easy solution, it is the best way to ensure your children’s needs are met and they are able to retain close relationships with both parents.
It may be helpful to start thinking of your relationship with your ex as a completely new one—one that is entirely about the well-being of your children, and not about either of you. Your marriage may be over, but your family is not; doing what is best for your kids is your most important priority. The first step to being a mature, responsible co-parent is to always put your children's needs ahead of your own.

Co-parenting is the best option for your children

Through your parenting partnership, your kids should recognize that they are more important than the conflict that ended the marriage—and understand that your love for them will prevail despite changing circumstances. Kids whose divorced parents have a cooperative relationship:

• Feel secure. When confident of the love of both parents, kids adjust more quickly and easily to divorce and have better self-esteem.
• Benefit from consistency. Co-parenting fosters similar rules, discipline, and rewards between households, so children know what to expect, and what’s expected of them.
• Better understand problem solving. Children who see their parents continuing to work together are more likely to learn how to effectively and peacefully solve problems themselves.
• Have a healthy example to follow. By cooperating with the other parent, you are establishing a life pattern your children can carry into the future.

Emotional abuse: It’s a bigger problem than you think

When people think of domestic abuse, they often picture battered women who have been physically assaulted. But not all abusive relationships involve violence. Just because you’re not battered and bruised doesn’t mean you’re not being abused. Many men and women suffer from emotional abuse, which is no less destructive. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often minimized or overlooked—even by the person being abused.

Understanding emotional abuse

The aim of emotional abuse is to chip away at your feelings of self-worth and independence. If you’re the victim of emotional abuse, you may feel that there is no way out of the relationship or that without your abusive partner you have nothing.

Emotional abuse includes verbal abuse such as yelling, name-calling, blaming, and shaming. Isolation, intimidation, and controlling behavior also fall under emotional abuse. Additionally, abusers who use emotional or psychological abuse often throw in threats of physical violence or other repercussions if you don’t do what they want.

You may think that physical abuse is far worse than emotional abuse, since physical violence can send you to the hospital and leave you with scars. But, the scars of emotional abuse are very real, and they run deep. In fact, emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse—sometimes even more so.

Economic or financial abuse: A subtle form of emotional abuse
Remember, an abuser’s goal is to control you, and he or she will frequently use money to do so. Economic or financial abuse includes:

•     Rigidly controlling your finances.
•     Withholding money or credit cards.
•     Making you account for every penny you spend.
•     Withholding basic necessities (food, clothes, medications, shelter).
•     Restricting you to an allowance.
•     Preventing you from working or choosing your own career.
•     Sabotaging your job (making you miss work, calling constantly).
•     Stealing from you or taking your money.